Indications a girl likes you.

[Connie]

So we all get to a point where we like a girl and wonder if they think the same way or not. The problem though (i feel this way, you may not) is finding out or knowing whether she likes you as a potential mate, a friend, an acquaintance or shes being friendly so you don't kill her, her family and her pet lizard. 

 

Through my observations and films that i have watched, the female gender gives certain signals like constant conversations and interest and also close contact. But again this is not always the case. As women like to tease or change their mind. They are very complicated 

 

But i suppose what i'm asking from this thread is a couple of things really. 

 

1. Where is good places to find appropriate women?
2. How to approach different women?
3. What to say?
4. How to react to what she says and does?
5. Then how to go on dates continuously and become her bf.

Now i'm not the most social or confident guy at all, i find it difficult to slide next to a woman in a club and be like "sup". I'm only 20 years old and only gone as far as kiss the same girl a few times. Any advice is appreciated and will be noted.  

[xVolloxx]

I had this problem a few years ago and i obsessed with if she liked me or not etc 

 

Best advice i could give you is just be yourself ! it's the best thing you can do 

except that is if you like her ask her out Asap . 

take her to see a movie or something or chill and watch a movie in your house 

 

I'm definitely not very confident but i have gotten more through time 

i'm confident about things i like to do , video games , music , drumming etc so talk about what you love and know 

so don't worry about it , be yourself and just be truthful .  

 

Good luck . 

 

Oh and don't overthink things and if you like her tell her and tell the truth i know it can be hard sometimes or for some people but trust me it's the best thing to do .

[MesopithecusUK]

From a meeting people perspective, I always find joining groups, clubs & forums, as its much easier to talk to people of mutual interest (I met my fella through mutual love of roller coasters)

I'm a straight up, no nonsense girl though. So no mixed signals or crap like that, if I like someone I tell them

When you do meet the right person, it won't be a case of "what to do, what to say etc." as things should flow quite naturally.

[siuilarun]

Relax, you've got the rest of you're life to worry about that. Regardless of what gender (or species) you are, if you reek of desperation, you'll attract only predators. I spent 2 years maintaining at all costs a relationship through what could best be likened to exhaling in deep space.

 

Also, don't hold what you see on TV and Film as canaan. Women are people. I know that sounds obvious, but it's dripping with undertones. Remember than human behavior is often seen as an "X-factor," a non-constant. They are as emotionally, behaviorally, and psychologically varied as our own gender... and just as dangerous. There will be no universal indication of intent, because her reactions will be based on her own unique lifetime of experiences, for better or worse.

 

As far as the "where," the interoffice relationship is a bit taboo, but if you're going for a genuine future with somebody, it's hard NOT to consider someone who has earned your respect as a reliable equal. If you're look for something a little... less permanent, then avoid colleagues. The saying goes "don't dip your pen in company ink." All this applies as well to classmates or anyone you'll have to see everyday whether you'll want to or not. Don't be ashamed to use an online service or chat or whatever. We live in a society where most adults don't have the free time to stand around waiting for Prince(ss) Charming, so they cut through the nonsense with a service that essentially says "I'm looking for this kind of relationship with this kind of partner." It's logical that this approach would have more accurate results then, as you put it, "Sup?" Facebook is a double edged sword, but it is a convenient way to talk with someone. Just remember, even the most honest, open person is only going to show you what they want you to see. Body language is a great way to see through the masks we wear, but Facebook, texting, stuff like that takes that advantage from you... And her, if you like. 

 

If you want a motivational platitude, "you'll miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

 

That's my advice/theory/bullshit anyway. Just like anything I say, it's not an infallible, sacred truth... It's just what I've got to offer.

[Beyondthegrave07]

Someone once told me when it comes to women, "Grow a pair."

 

I responded by saying, "A pair of what?"

[lporiginalg]

siuilarun more or less said everything I was gonna say.

[daniezutton]

Someone once told me when it comes to women, "Grow a pair."

 

I responded by saying, "A pair of what?"

A pair of pears. 

 

-Meet girl/women wherever you want

-Be yourself, not someone else

-Approach them how you see fit .. unless it's inappropriate

-Never overreact but do not underreact .. be open with how you feel

-Be willing to do what she wants, but she must also be willing to do what you want .. do not force anything

-You go on dates continuously by asking and going .. it's not as complicated as it may seem

-Focus on common similarities, not differences. Realize what you don't have in common but don't let it ruin a relationship

 

In the end, be you. If a girl has a problem with that, move on. Trust me, I'm fucking weird and have a lot of mental issues do to my past, but there are people out there for everyone. No, i do not mean I am mentally handicapped aka - retarded. 

[Aipher]

Someone once told me when it comes to women, "Grow a pair."

 

I responded by saying, "A pair of what?"

Gotta be tits. You already have balls (use them!), what you are missing is most likely the feminine way of things. Listen more and talk less. Most girls just like someone who they can relate to, be safe and secure with, and have mutual respect for (most of the time anyway). You're not going to get to that side of them by talking nonsense all the time, but having a sense of humor helps sometimes. Don't follow stereotypes (from movies, magazines, media in general), and be yourself. Most of the time you're going to find all that you need to know by simple conversation and body language where applicable. Then it's a matter of determining how compatible you are towards one another.

 

Remember, we have two ears and one mouth. Guess which you should be using more.

[AlteredFormula]

1. Local parks, Alleyways and poorly lit country roads
2. With a gun/knife and some chloroform (I hate it when they scream.)
3. Scream and I'll kill you
4. if she gets feisty apply the chloroform, if that doesnt work, use the gun/knife
5. Avoid the police, follow her everywhere she goes.

If that doesnt work, I cant help you.

[Arkthur]

You don't really have to wait until you know for sure if the girl likes you to ask her to be your gf/mate/whatever. Ask her out a couple of times, doesn't have to be a romantic date or anything. And then say it, say: Hey Magnolia (I'm assuming the girl's name is Magnolia), I like you, you wanna do it or what? Well maybe you can skip the last part, but yeah if the girl doesn't like you, you are going to get shot down and that sucks, but you'll recover and move on. Thats way better that just waiting until the girl gives you a clear sign, if she doesn't you wasted time you could be spending with another girl, if she likes you, you wasted time you could be together as more than a friend.

 

I've been on both situations and believe me, being confident is the best card you have. Don't waste time my friend.

[BSAA_Advisor]

My tips:

1. IS MOST IMPORTANT, Be you not someone else. (duh, I think we all know that)

2. Communicate, find out her interests and compare them with yours to see if you have anything in common.

3. ALWAYS be honest, some girls really like that and you should know if they do.

4. Read their body language, this is pretty useful..it can tell you quite a bit.

5. Try not to underreact or be shy.

 

Note: I never did most of these, I mostly keep to myself but when I did I got one of the most beautiful girls ever. (To me, of course)

It really helps not to overcomplicate and react where necessary.

Also it don't really matter where you meet a girl, you can meet them anywhere.

Edited May 6, 2013 by BSAA_Operative

[xVolloxx]

1. Local parks, Alleyways and poorly lit country roads
2. With a gun/knife and some chloroform (I hate it when they scream.)
3. Scream and I'll kill you
4. if she gets feisty apply the chloroform, if that doesnt work, use the gun/knife
5. Avoid the police, follow her everywhere she goes.

If that doesnt work, I cant help you.

 

This is Perfect !

[ReverieCode]

I found out, years after liking a girl, that if I had been brave enough back them and told her my feelings, we would have been together. (She said it to me herself)

 

So, besides being yourself and other things, don't waste any time and do what you want to do!

 

If she says "NO", it's unfortunate, but at least for me, it's better than regret what you could have done but decided not to. Plus, a "NO" is rarely definitive

[UltraDog177]

Two girls I asked ended up liking my  best friends even though I thought they liked me So it can go wrong. Yet to find someone who says Yes lol The excuses are interesting though.

[antithesis]

It depends on your own attractiveness to the opposite sex. In my experience (4 years working in nightclubs in my 20's so I saw the mating ritual play out hundreds of times every night), women are only too happy to be fucked and chucked by a good-looking guy, but they're not too keen to have a relationship with an average-looking guy.

Being burnt innumerable times in these scenarios leads women to cast a wider net, grow the fuck up and start looking for the attributes they want in a potential husband and father. At 20, that's unlikely to be their objective. Don't fool yourself into believing young women want romance, holding hands and walking on the beach - they just want to get laid, so go in thinking this is a one-night gig, fuck your brains out and walk away.

If you're a "nice guy", start being an asshole if you just want to dip your wick. Be confident, be direct, be blunt, butter them up with compliments, ply them and yourself with alcohol (beer goggles help) and hope they don't notice your bluff. That's not a bad plan at 20 - you don't need a serious relationship at that age, you need to learn what you don't want in a partner by trial and error rather than permanently attach yourself to the first pretty dumb thing that looks cockeyed in your direction.

And keep in mind, try not to bat out of your league. If you're a hotty, we wouldn't be having this conversation. If you're an ugmo, stick to fat chicks and the ordinary-looking hangers-on who flock around their attractive female friends hoping to pick up their dregs. They want a root as bad as you, so your chances are higher by aiming low.

That said, if you've got a huge cock, it doesn't matter how ugly you are, you've got a trump card in your trousers. Just as an ugly girl with big tits is automatically attractive (on some level), an ugly dude hung like a rogue elephant is an automatic win. Use it.

Bottom line - get confident stupid, practice on the ugly ones and prepare yourself for rejection. Or grow old alone...your choice.

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Disclaimer - I'm a nice guy, there's no two ways about it, and I couldn't do any of the above. I robbed myself of countless opportunities in my teens and early 20's to get with a hot chick because I lacked the confidence to shove my tongue down her throat and my hand up her blouse. I was mistaken into believing girls wanted relationships, the reality is they wanted cock. But I knew what I wanted and I was prepared to wait until I found the right girl for me.

It wasn't until my mid-20's after several failed short-term "relationships" and being on the receiving end of fucks-and-chucks that I got lucky and met a girl who was over the asshole phase of her life and wanted something longer term. 16 years later, I'm still with her. If you can stick it out another few years until the stupid drains out of women your age, you'll find someone who looks beyond skin or wallet deep. Until then, don't take it too seriously, get some coin in the bank to support a family down the track (if that's what you ultimately want) and just have fun.

Edited May 6, 2013 by ant1th3s1s

[HardXDXtraga]

1. Local parks, Alleyways and poorly lit country roads
2. With a gun/knife and some chloroform (I hate it when they scream.)
3. Scream and I'll kill you
4. if she gets feisty apply the chloroform, if that doesnt work, use the gun/knife
5. Avoid the police, follow her everywhere she goes.

If that doesnt work, I cant help you.

Gonna try this tomorrow, pray for my sucess boys and girls!

Thank you for the advice AlteredFormula, surely this will work since there are so many likes on your post!!

[ScreechingOwl]

ant1th3s1s' first paragraph is the closest to nailing (no pun intended) my opinion. If you want to catch the ladies' eye I would recommend you get a good haircut. You'd be surprised how drastically it can affect your sex appeal. Calvin Harris' current haircut wouldn't be a bad choice if you're stuck for ideas.

[Curb]

Calvin Harris' current haircut wouldn't be a bad choice if you're stuck for ideas.

 

Calvin... Hairris?

[Memnoch]

Calvin... Hairris?

oh that was poor Curb ...

[Curb]

oh that was poor Curb ...

 

I'm a sucker for low-hanging fruit

[Nasty_Rory]

ant1th3s1s covered a lot of the ground here so consider this to be the icing on that cake.

You are in no rush. When you walk into a bar or night club with the intend of picking up that nights bird take a good long look at what is going on.

Women have a herd mentality when they are out. They dont think it, but it is the case. The best looking woman will often have several other less pretty girls - essentially bodyguards - around her. The bodyguards filter out the lower specification fellas and pair off with them in order to save the hot girl the bother of dealing with them.

Now if you dont want to punch above your weight friendly chat with a bodyguard will work a charm.

The bodyguard will be surprised that she and not the hottie is getting the attention and will generally be an easier pick up. Start with something simple like you love her shoes - that way you get to keep looking her up and down with out looking like you are looking her up and down. Generally women are a sucker for that - shoes or handbags, dont bother talking about clothes as its too ackward.

Now if you think you are Rocky then the hottie is the target.

Get yourself beside her at the bar by ignoring her and her friends/bodyguards. Simply apologise as you push through and then when you are beside hottie ignore her. Yes, dont chat to her, if she says something smile and chat to one of the people (not necessarily the bodyguard.)

The hottie will not understand why you are not trying to hit on her as all men should be drawn to her and she will strike up a conversation with you to see if you are gay or what the hell is wrong with her.....

Now you are in. Say something like....

Oh I thought a pretty girl like you would have all ready had a man... be non-committal again in your chat but keep the conversation going.

then once you have several exchanges of conversation (but always strain to hear her as in its too noisy) then suggest that you move to a quieter location so you can hear why she is saying....

get her away from the body guards and then start the shoes chat.

All it takes is some confidence. and the quickest way to get that is to go at it without giving a damn. go out with the intentions of chatting to as many women as possible a few nights and you will soon get the hang of having a conversation with a girl.

It wont take too long for you to work out which ones want cock as Ant1th3s1s puts it or which ones are in the no cock week.

Look for flirty behaviour - touching their lips, cheek, hair, rubbing finger on the glass of their drink - especially along the length of the glass (almost certain she wants your cock at that point)

Then decide if you want to chance it.

Oh I once made a decision when I was 17 not to shag anyone I thought was madder than I was and it seemed to have stood me in good stead.

And the other thing I learnt was that shagging everything that took your fancy was soul destroying. I have had far more then my fair share and in the end it got me nothing more than a rash on my back.

Be yourself and good luck

[ASlimeAppears]

"Through my observations and films that i have watched"

 

ಠ_ಠ

 

No.  Just...no.  99% of films are a horrible reflection of reality.

[Gotakibono]

It depends on your own attractiveness to the opposite sex. In my experience (4 years working in nightclubs in my 20's so I saw the mating ritual play out hundreds of times every night), women are only too happy to be fucked and chucked by a good-looking guy, but they're not too keen to have a relationship with an average-looking guy.

Being burnt innumerable times in these scenarios leads women to cast a wider net, grow the fuck up and start looking for the attributes they want in a potential husband and father. At 20, that's unlikely to be their objective. Don't fool yourself into believing young women want romance, holding hands and walking on the beach - they just want to get laid, so go in thinking this is a one-night gig, fuck your brains out and walk away.

If you're a "nice guy", start being an asshole if you just want to dip your wick. Be confident, be direct, be blunt, butter them up with compliments, ply them and yourself with alcohol (beer goggles help) and hope they don't notice your bluff. That's not a bad plan at 20 - you don't need a serious relationship at that age, you need to learn what you don't want in a partner by trial and error rather than permanently attach yourself to the first pretty dumb thing that looks cockeyed in your direction.

And keep in mind, try not to bat out of your league. If you're a hotty, we wouldn't be having this conversation. If you're an ugmo, stick to fat chicks and the ordinary-looking hangers-on who flock around their attractive female friends hoping to pick up their dregs. They want a root as bad as you, so your chances are higher by aiming low.

That said, if you've got a huge cock, it doesn't matter how ugly you are, you've got a trump card in your trousers. Just as an ugly girl with big tits is automatically attractive (on some level), an ugly dude hung like a rogue elephant is an automatic win. Use it.

Bottom line - get confident stupid, practice on the ugly ones and prepare yourself for rejection. Or grow old alone...your choice.

=====================================================================

Disclaimer - I'm a nice guy, there's no two ways about it, and I couldn't do any of the above. I robbed myself of countless opportunities in my teens and early 20's to get with a hot chick because I lacked the confidence to shove my tongue down her throat and my hand up her blouse. I was mistaken into believing girls wanted relationships, the reality is they wanted cock. But I knew what I wanted and I was prepared to wait until I found the right girl for me.

It wasn't until my mid-20's after several failed short-term "relationships" and being on the receiving end of fucks-and-chucks that I got lucky and met a girl who was over the asshole phase of her life and wanted something longer term. 16 years later, I'm still with her. If you can stick it out another few years until the stupid drains out of women your age, you'll find someone who looks beyond skin or wallet deep. Until then, don't take it too seriously, get some coin in the bank to support a family down the track (if that's what you ultimately want) and just have fun.

 

In a roundabout way, this sums up pretty much what I was going to say. Don't go out with the goal of finding true love or the one - doesn't work like that, unfortunately; go out, relax and have fun. And who knows, maybe a girl that you meet on a drunken, debauched night out turns out to be your perfect girl, or you happen to meet just an awesome, funny girl who becomes a fantastic friend - life is odd and full of surprises, just roll with things.

 

I'm 22-years-old, did the relationship thing and now I'm jaded from the experience. I'm glad I went through the tumultuous relationship as it made me realise that there are so many people out there, I don't want to tie myself down just yet; I want to meet as many people as possible and enjoy myself. And hopefully get laid here and there between, of course. 

 

Also, Conn, if you want I can go to Wigan and be your wingman - just saying

[Dark-Twisted]

I find it an indication a girl likes me when they compliment my trophy collection.

 

yes I'm joking

[Connie]

In a roundabout way, this sums up pretty much what I was going to say. Don't go out with the goal of finding true love or the one - doesn't work like that, unfortunately; go out, relax and have fun. And who knows, maybe a girl that you meet on a drunken, debauched night out turns out to be your perfect girl, or you happen to meet just an awesome, funny girl who becomes a fantastic friend - life is odd and full of surprises, just roll with things.

 

I'm 22-years-old, did the relationship thing and now I'm jaded from the experience. I'm glad I went through the tumultuous relationship as it made me realise that there are so many people out there, I don't want to tie myself down just yet; I want to meet as many people as possible and enjoy myself. And hopefully get laid here and there between, of course. 

 

Also, Conn, if you want I can go to Wigan and be your wingman - just saying

I appreciate the comments guys and gota you are welcome any time my friend