Don't you hate it when you get randomly deleted by friends for no reason?

[Satoshi Ookami]

I recently deleted bunch of people. If they don't talk to me, why should I have them in the friends list?

I don't even remember if I ever boosted with them or so... no reason to have flooded friend list.

Plus, you mentioned PS4, that can be another reason, it boosts the social crap too much, you can get friend requests just because you appear under "You may know"...

 

Overall, it's understandable, if you aren't the type that chats actively with 200 ppl (MADNESS), you have no reason to have friend list with >100 friends (especially since PS3 can't handle it)

Edited April 2, 2015 by Satoshi Ookami

[DrBloodmoney]

Words do not matter, the context does, I find your stance on that to be childish if I'm honest. 

You're going to deleting a lot of Black people for using the word n_igger.. have fun.

Words do matter, and regardless of whatcolor a person is there are certain words i wont voluntarily introduce into the house my wife and infant son live in.

Hence my liberal use of the delete function, my muting of all players in all multiplayer, and my total avoidance of Fifa and CoD multiplayer.

I dont feel the need to ask for 'context' when keeping the n word away from my family.

[xMisFitToyx]

I have a bad habit of doing this to people myself. I don't play many online multi-player games, but whenever I do I tend to make a few friends. However, after I move onto other games, I will never play with those people again because it never comes to mind, then I just delete the after a month or so. There is no harsh feelings, I just like a selective group.

 

I do the same thing.

[necroshifter86]

I'm talking about the close people that you've had really good times with that delete you all of a sudden.

[siuilarun]

No. Maybe if it's someone I know outside of gaming, but that's never happened to me. Maybe if I'm in a guild/clan from an MMO and I've put a lot of effort into helping others with tangible, measurable results (IE Forsaken Worlds contribution system) only to be shafted, but again I can't think of a time that's happened to me. Other than that, if they don't want me around, I'm not going to force myself on them... They don't owe me anything, least of all friendship. I guess that's easier for me to say since I'm not just a super social person, even online.

[Wulfie]

I hate it when people delete me because it's makes me think that I did something wrong.

[Havok__84]

I recently just had my first deletion by someone last night because I was unwilling to game share some DLC that just came out for MX vs ATV Supercross. I'm sorry but don't expect me to share my PSN info just because you blew all your money on something else.

 

As for what I would delete someone over, DrBloodmoney is at where I am with it, any kind of racism or homophobia of any kind is an automatic deletion. As for the context card some people are playing, there's no context needed for ignorance, I'm almost 31 and I have zero tolerance for it at my age.

Edited April 4, 2015 by Havok__84

[DrBloodmoney]

 

As for what I would delete someone over, DrBloodmoney is at where I am with it, any kind of racism or homophobia of any kind is an automatic deletion. As for the context card some people are playing, there's no context needed for ignorance, I'm almost 31 and I have zero tolerance for it at my age.

Well said - im 31 btw, i have a hunch that those people talking about it being okay 'in context' are quite a bit younger, and may well change thier views later in life

[KOTOR4240]

Stuff like this you just gotta learn to put-up with, regardless of how annoying it is. The way I am, is I'm the kinda person who couldn't care less if people stay on my friend list or they delete me, but I do understand where you're coming from.

 

Now, what never fails to get my goat, is when I explain to people that I have a tendency to send quite a few messages and they pretend to care, then they turn around and get mad at me after I've explained it to them. Another thing that makes me mad, is when I send people a friend request and they question where I found them or why I sent them a friend request, like it's any of their business, then turn around and delete me. I don't ask for much. All I ask, is that everyone show me the same amount of respect that I show them and not start fights with me. If I delete people from my friend list, I have my reasons for it and I don't owe them an explanation. Just the way I am.

Edited December 6, 2018 by KOTOR4240
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[KOTOR4240]

22 minutes ago, KOTOR4240 said:

Stuff like this you just gotta learn to put-up with, regardless of how annoying it is. The way I am, is I'm the kinda person who couldn't care less if people stay on my friend list or they delete me, but I do understand where you're coming from.

 

Now, what never fails to get my goat, is when I explain to people that I have a tendency to send quite a few messages and they pretend to care, then they turn around and get mad at me after I've explained it to them. Another thing that makes me mad, is when I send people a friend request and they question where I found them or why I sent them a friend request, like it's any of their business, then turn around and delete me. I don't ask for much. All I ask, is that everyone show me the same amount of respect that I show them and not start fights with me. If I delete people from my friend list, I have my reasons for it and I don't owe them an explanation. Just the way I am.

I don't ask for much. All I ask, is that everyone show me the same amount of respect that I show them and not start fights with me. If I delete people from my friend list, I have my reasons for it and I don't owe them an explanation. Just the way I am.

[Z1MZUM]

I have received allot of friend requests from various female name likes xXHotchick6969696Xx with links to their online porn. I ban them immediately. Actually my banned list is about 5 times bigger then my friends list. As for being dropped by friend? I wouldn't even know tbh.

[tjoe1bkhjtqxm]

I actually don't have any friends on my PSN Profile lol in really too paranoid about my privacy (even if I know I can set everything on private ?) or if some users manage to hack my profile (like spam porn bots in the post before?) 

[Lillia]

I'm usually very friendly and don't mind adding or accepting friend requests. But if they're not active for a very long time I will delete them eventually 

[ProfBambam55]

never been deleted from a game or chat...i clean up my friends list regularly and take no offense if people delete me...i've got a good solid base group of friends that gets + / - a couple every year...i love online play..."remember that time when we...?" alone isn't a good enough reason to keep people added...similar interests in multiplayer games/gameplay and somewhat regular communication are also important imo...

 

as far as I'm concerned, if someone is deleting you that you thought was a friend, then they are doing you a favour...likely not the type of person you'd want on your list anyhow...

[xEl_Cidx]

It's easy to find out who deleted you from the friends list without them even telling you.

 

When you send or receive a friend request you automatically follow them. 

 

Go to the follows list under friends in PS4 and scroll down, any that show up as add as a friend is the person who deleted you just unfollow them and boom off your list too.

 

 

 

 

 

[tjoe1bkhjtqxm]

17 hours ago, xEl_Cidx said:

It's easy to find out who deleted you from the friends list without them even telling you.

 

When you send or receive a friend request you automatically follow them. 

 

Go to the follows list under friends in PS4 and scroll down, any that show up as add as a friend is the person who deleted you just unfollow them and boom off your list too.

 

 

 

 

 

Yes but damn anyone who does this to figure out if someone has removed you from his friend list, has to be a real stalker who takes the commitment to check out this everyday lol

 

I wouldn't get offended if someone removes me but who cares I'm a forever alone sociopath guy that's why I don't care about friendship and relationships. 

 

Same process you mentioned happens also on Facebook, place where people get really annoyed and offended if they get removed lol

[Feral]

I wouldn't even notice if someone deleted me on PSN. Only look at my friends list to see who's online but that's very occasionally.

[tjoe1bkhjtqxm]

I don't undestrand why people should be angry or sad if they get removed. 

 

Why videogames have to be social too?

We have to remember that more than ten years ago, videogames were the finest symbol of social isolation and f**k sociality and relationships. Now everything has to be shared, post your pictures on Rockstar Games community to show your stupid outfits of Red Dead Redemption 2 so the coolest one receveis more like and thumbs up, in Assassin's Creed Origins and Odyssey you can save your pictures to show them on the map and receive ❤️... Why? Is this thing useful to the gameplay? No! It's an example of how videogames are becoming socially lousy. 

 

 

Even if on PSN are virtual friendships, you anyway make contact with another human being so I find this very stupid. 

 

I only add friends if I need to boost trophies, in order to help me or help the other player out. Boosting done? Fine, remove, bye. 

[JohnCenaSong-]

I tend to be the person to delete in most situations.

 

I have a small friends list and whilst those sitting on hundreds of friends will think that's because I'm 'unpopular' or 'uncool' I don't care. 

 

My friends list is a FRIENDS list, to be on it you have to be a friend. Over time sometimes you can drift apart from friends and if we haven't spoken for a long while then I might end up deleting them.

 

I sometimes add someone for the sake of being able to invite them to games or allow them to join friend only games etc. But if we don't develop the beginning of some kind of friendship whilst playing together then odds are I'll delete them not long after we're done playing together.

 

Deleting someone isn't saying I think anything wrong of them, I've met a couple people who I've thought were nice enough but we didn't click or anything, just played that one particular game for a bit then they moved on and never spoke to each other again.

 

I know PSN has massively increased friends list sizes so it's not like I have a lack of space, I just prefer not having people I don't really know padding out my list.

 

 

Oh, btw here's a fun game for anyone with a massive friends list who wants to cut it down. I played this with a friend who had about 400 guys on his friends list. Basically you have to go through your friends list, ideally with someone else there to witness and have a laugh with to make it more fun, and each persons name you read out you HAVE to say at least one thing about them from the top of your head, whether it be how you met, something about their personality, a fact about them etc. And if you can't come up with something immediately delete them. It can be hilarious going through and reading some weird ass name and being like "who the heck is this!?". I remember my friend reached a dude and the only thing he could say was he thinks he might be French because of his name xD, safe to say that one was deleted.

[Savyna]

Do you get deleted although you recently had contact like chat together or played something together? I can understand why you'd be upset about it. I personally don't mind getting deleted as long as this are no RL friends or people I had a good going online friendship with. But these are rare for me, since time is limited and you can't be good friends with everyone you occasionally met. Normally I don't even notice if someone deletes me, and I am pretty sure that a lot of people of my friend list wouldn't notice either.

 

This thread reminds me to go through my friends list sometime soon, it's been some years since I did it last time. So many names pop up now, where I have no clue why I befriended them in the first place .

 

[Kittet3]

I delete people off of my friend's list when I don't remember who they are/why I added them to begin with  However, I do have friends on my list I haven't spoken to in years, but that's because I still can recognize their names. 

[JohnCenaSong-]

I just remembered one of my friends had deleted me once and we only spoke like a couple days before he did. It was a really odd experience but he has quite serious OCD and I've seen him delete people at weird times for very very obscure reasons before (like playing a certain game, finding out they were from a certain country etc. all kinds of odd stuff.)

 

In that situation I certainly wasn't offended and I still see him as a friend and care about him. Wish him the best with his issues. Miss hanging out and chatting with him and his weird quirks, he was self-aware of much of it and we had some good laughs about some of his oddities.

[Lava_Yuki]

I'm usually just PSN friends with people I've talked to online via messaging like on here or facebook, have similar game interests, or my real life friends. But I ignore all other requests from anyone who I've never had any kind of interaction with, be it online or in person. So this usually avoids having to delete people and so far have not had to delete anyone or be deleted.

 

I can see why people would delete those who they never interact or play online with, especially if that person isn't your friend IRL.  

[Charizarzar]

For the most part I really don’t mind, I do it myself sometimes, and it’s usually when I can’t find any messages between us, can’t recall why we’re friends, or if we barely interacted. Then basically keep the people I had positive/memorable sessions with, cause we’ve often found we share other games and go on to do those later.

 

I think there’s only one time I was a little bothered by it, cause it was someone I was pretty friendly with and until not long before had spent a lot of time boosting with even long after I’d finished the game, and he had mutual friends still added. ?Tbh though, I doubt too much thought goes into someone unfriending someone most of the time.

[MrTacoNinja]

On 4/2/2015 at 2:55 AM, necroshifter86 said:

Don't you hate it when so called "friends" randomly delete you for no reason whatsoever? I'm talking about the same people that kick you for no reason if you join their chats (or even games lobbies) as well. Yes I get space is needed for more people on your list, and that you can get deleted accidently but idk whats going on in this world. Its happened like 100 times now in like my 4 years on ps3 and ps4. Just want to know if this happens to other people as well. And Im not a troll, Im one of those people thats trying to be a nicer person every day and want to be good friends with people.

 

Oh yeah, if you want to add me, I'll accept any friend requests as I am trying to make more cool friends on psn as I said.

I delete people when they don't make any effort to keep in touch. I'll meet a person half way. After that I delete them. What's the point? On a side note, can anyone please explain to me why I'm a Premium member? I never paid for this. I just created this account yesterday.